Surrogacy: Our Family’s Journey
chronicles the ups and downs of surrogacy as experienced by James Phillip: from making the decision to use a surrogate, each step along the way, presenting both sides of the process and on to the creation of a family and the support needed through the first months after bringing his twin babies home.
This unique memoir follows James on his incredible, and sometimes exasperating, journey through the ‘hurry up and wait’ path of the surrogacy process overseas in Bangkok, Thailand. He finds himself caught up in long-distance phone calls and messages, trying to make everything perfect for the surrogate’s health and happiness, changing hospitals, having to start all over again in the process due to nonviable eggs and swimming in a sea of red tape.
Yet, through all the happiness, sadness and stress, he still manages to meet and fall in love with Krzysztof, a wonderful addition to his support system and future family. Feeling even stronger with the continued support of Krzysztof and other friends and family, James must keep in constant touch with everyone involved in the surrogate’s health care and navigate through more obstacles, not only in the legal and diplomatic sectors, but also at the hospital where rules restrict some aspects of participation in the birth process for same-sex parents. Meanwhile, he and Krzysztof are trying to put a home together and ready everything for the new baby when news hits that the couple must double their efforts, as they will be welcoming twins into their home and their lives...