Troubador Heart of Relating

Released: 28/06/2015

eISBN: 9781784629687

Format: eBook

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Heart of Relating

Communication Beyond Ego


Heart of Relating invites you to take part in the growing movement towards communicating beyond your ego and persona, by learning the art of relating from the heart of who you are. Based on Eckhart Tolle’s words – “If you get the inside right, the outside will fall into place” – Heart of Relating explores Carmella B’Hahn’s ‘inside-out’ and ‘outside-in’ paradigms of relating to help you recognise where you are and where you want to be. Learning to relate from the heart of who you are – from the inside out. Written in 52 different sections – one for each week of the year – the powerful stories, quotes and transformative practices can be used to help build the skills needed for daily life. With so many books targeted at specific aspects of relationships – love, marriage, conflict resolution, etc. – Heart of Relating can help you with multiple aspects of relating, not only with primary relationships, but also with family, friends, colleagues and especially yourself. Aimed at giving you a conscious communication toolbox for life, this holistic book can be used as a structured course or as a resource that you can dip into when you need it most. Couples, friends, families and groups can use it to support each other, and therapists and teachers can use it as a handbook to support clients and students.

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HEART OF RELATING: Communication Beyond Ego

This is truly a Course in Miracles for relationships.

Malcolm Stern, Co-founder of “Alternatives”, Psychotherapist and Author

Heart of Relating is a very useful and important work. It gives you, in a concise way, deep insight into how to know yourself and how then to communicate from your essential self to the essential self of others. We are at an epochal time of change in which humanity, worldwide, needs conscious communication skills to be taught and learned as the heart of a secular ethic that empowers all people. This book will give you a jump-start in being a leader in fostering this necessary transformation.
Richard Moss, MD., Author of Inside-Out Healing and The Mandala of Being.

Every week my work colleagues would ask, “What’s the topic?” On “Love Without Falling” Week, I showed them the Love Paradigms Model and they all wanted copies. It touched a chord.
Anonymous member of the first Heart of Relating Study Group

I love Heart of Relating - what a passionate offering to the world. I was inspired to fuse your exercise in “Look Who’s Talking” Week with my own work on a teaching weekend and also adapted your wonderful diagram in a workshop for parents. You have clearly articulated what is deeply true and I am sure that your work will be a resource for facilitators to enhance all kinds of self-enquiry workshops.
Joanna Watters – Teacher and Founder of This Beautiful Work: supporting a radical acceptance of present moment reality.

My heart was firmly closed to relationships when I started to use Heart of Relating to explore my inner world. After only a few weeks, I literally felt my heart opening again and an important, loving relationship fell into this space.
Elena Brandwood, Occupational Therapist

This is the manual for the nuts and bolts of healthy relating, which should be handed out at birth! I want to see it in every school, church, government, social services department and community of every kind.
Sally Eaves, Retired School Teacher

The message is pure, simple, easy to grasp and from the heart. As a therapist I will certainly use Heart of Relating with clients.
Kat Collier, Massage Therapist

A beautiful blend of deep wisdom and useful strategies for cultivating authentic relationships; most importantly, with ourselves first.
Linda Lantieri, Author of Building Emotional Intelligence

On “Ego Watch” Week I made an Egometer, which I put on my car dashboard. This has transformed my driving. I’ve always enjoyed the thrill of powerful cars, which endangered and scared passengers. The Egometer showed me how often I was speeding and accelerating just to feel better than others. Now I have a smaller car and my Egometer’s indicator stays mainly central – meaning that I am calm and non-reactive.
Ian Fenwick, HR Study Group Member

A simple, useful guide. J an a writer and have more than the basic level of understanding but this book still had helpful and insightful tips that I have picked up and used. I would recommend this book to anyone looking for an entry level text on the subject.

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Carmella B'Hahn

Carmella B’Hahn was born in the Midlands of England in 1958.

She has had a fascination since childhood with the subject of relating and communication, having suffered a mysterious fear of speaking that took thirty years to dissolve.

She has completed many trainings, but life itself – particularly birth and death – has been her greatest teacher. The sudden death of her first son, aged five, and subsequent miscarriages taught her the importance of living from her inner strength, and now she assists others to do likewise. Presently this takes the form of communications coaching, grief counselling and courses supported by the teachings from her three books, Heart of Relating, Mourning Has Broken and Benjaya’s Gifts.

Carmella co-founded: MetaCentre: Foundation for Human Potential in 1984; BirthWorks (now franchised) in 1987, which offers support services for holistic birth and waterbirth; and The Transitus Network in 2004, which honours the sacred process of living and dying.

Since 2002 she has been on the team of The Inner Resilience Program in New York City, founded and directed by Linda Lantieri, which supports school personnel to connect with their inner lives (

In 2005 she co-created her ideal living conditions – an intentional eco-community called Bowden House Community in Totnes, Devon, UK. Given the 33 adults and 14 children who co-habit this land with her, it has become her playground for practising and learning a multitude of relating skills.

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