Troubador Don't Get Married Until You Are Single

Released: 28/01/2018

ISBN: 9781788039376

eISBN: 9781788033800

Format: Paperback/eBook

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Don't Get Married Until You Are Single


Sam Opeche didn’t know his mum until he turned 19. His parents were divorced when he was just six. Something always told him that growing up wouldn’t have been so difficult if his parents had stayed together. He found that there’s his dad’s side of the story, his mum’s side of the story, and then there’s the truth. 

Since then, a lot of his time has been spent on trying to search for the truth. Could his parent’s divorce have been prevented or was it inevitable? Could there have been something different in the mix that may have helped them weather the storms, or could it be that they were just not made for each other?

It wasn’t until years later, as he faced up to his own personal challenges in marriage, that it dawned on him what the solution could have been. ‘Don’t Get Married Until You Are Single’, but if you are married already, seek singleness and self-love and your marriage will blossom to new dimensions of fulfilment. 

I had a very successful book signing / launch at Woodgreen and Romford respectively on Sunday 28th January 2018. My team and I had to set up quite early at Woodgreen to make sure that we got the best of the day. After which we dashed to Romford to meet the 12pm gathering that awaited us there. Both venues were truly exciting and thrilling as we got a great reception from the people. Feeling truly thankful!

16/02/2018 I had another very successful book signing event at Peterborough Dominion Centre with a bunch of vibrant and knowledge thirsty young couples and singles. What better place to be than with people who are ready to get knowledge about singleness. Thankful!

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As a very recent newlywed (at age 50) I realize that I wasn't SINGLE until about two weeks before I met HIM. It was my 48th birthday and I looked at the sky and realized that I WAS MEANT TO BE SINGLE. Well, I was single by then ... truly single.

Opeche declared the reality - preparation is everything.

Singleness is a state that is hard to explain in one sentence --- and he shares some of these key truths in the book, such as:
1. You don't have to be married to be happy.
2. Married people are some of the loneliest people on the planet.
3. Lack of discovery of yourself will mean you cannot cultivate the virtues you need in marriage
4. You can only get as much love as you receive (and vice-versa)
5. You cannot truly love another until you love yourself.
.. and so on.

I could write pages about what the book is about and his excellent theories but you would be better to read this book --- if you are unhappily single or unhappily married you will love this book. Happily married? You will love this book. Just outright confused about your love life or lack thereof? Read this book. (I already pre-ordered it for my hubby and me to have on our already-groaning bookshelves.

OKAY --- if you have a pulse READ THIS BOOK!!! 5 shining stars.

by Janet Cousineau

I was drawn to be this book because of two things: the title and the fact that the title part reflection of my status.

The author's writing is timely and full of insights into being single, dating and getting married. He shares his own life experiences and those of the people he has interacted with over the years on what it means to give your best version to another in any commitment.
This book is written in what feels like a narrator's voice and I had to highlight chapters and make notes as I read through it on my eReader. I'd recommend reading it in print version so you can always make notes or highlight key areas that inspire, thus making it easier for you to progress in keeping track of areas of improvement.

I received an advanced digital copy of the book in exchange for an honest review and I am glad that the publisher and NetGalley granted my wish because now I can approach my weaknesses with such clarity. This book would make an awesome gift to friends who are single and gosh, how about in Kenya and some parts of Africa where people look at you and ask "when are you getting married?" as though you came with an expiry date!

by Dora Archie Okeyo

It's really good! I'm halfway through and I'm really enjoying it. Already recommended it to two people.
I saw a review of it on Goodreads that got me intrigued and i'm really glad I downloaded it.

by Sara Abudahab

Thank you Netgalley and Troubador Publishing Limited for the advanced copy of this book in exchange for my honest review. This book is not just for Single people, but Married as well. I had reservations going into this book because I am married and I thought it would hold a lot of advise for Single people or people who are in the beginning stages of dating. Turns out this book is for everyone. I would take the advise from this book with a grain of salt because the some of the facts listed are not well researched and some of the 'facts' are not so much as facts, but stereotypes. Seeing into the authors dating and married life leaves you with some insights into your own life. One of the things that he shares that I love is 'You don't have to be married to be happy'. Society puts so much pressure on people to be married and start a family all by a certain age and if you don't, you will not have a happy and fulfilling life. What I took away is that you need to love yourself first and then you can truly love others Find yourself first and the entering into a relationship will be a little bit easier. I have already recommended this book to a few of my single friends and I cannot wait to hear what they thought of this book.

by Shaunielle Stewart

Sam O. Opeche

Sam Opeche has been working with married couples for the past ten years to provide counselling through Supportive and Interpretive therapy. His methods enable couples to deal with the presenting problems in their marriages. As well as working with married couples, Sam’s work also involves the provision of tailored relationship advice and guidance to unmarried people who aspire to find bliss in a marital relationship.

As a Psychotherapist, he employs the use of social media platforms and one-to-one discussion to help encourage, educate and energise his clients to practice wholesome principles that aids them to transform their troubled marriages and relationships.

Sam together with his wife Elizabeth Opeche run e Marriage Workshop service that reaches over 300,000 people monthly on Facebook. rough bespoke video clips and messages, they touch on salient issues affecting many marriages and have a growing followership of over 37,000 people since the workshop started on July 14th 2016, which was their 16th wedding anniversary.

His wife Elizabeth and he are both from broken homes, but it is Sam’s background and life’s story that has remained his motivation to see a change in the prospect of marriages in this generation.

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